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Friday
26Feb2010

How They Met: Southern Love

"How They Met" is a new series that tells the story of how a clients made a lasting connection, with the help a little eFlirt Expert magic.  

It all starts with a Southern gentleman who recently moved.  In an attempt to acclimate himself to the area and date some new ladies, he turned to online dating and eFlirt Expert.  While the Southern gent joined Match.com, Laurie recommended that he might also consider putting a profile up on Okcupid.  He agreed and we got busy writing!  Two eFlirt Expert profiles and two online dating sites later, our Southern gent started thinking that maybe he wanted a little bit more than just meeting new people.  After several phone calls with Laurie, he had opened himself up to whatever may come from his dating life.

Two months ago, he got a message that read: "I've never written to a guy before, but your profile was so compelling that I just had to say HI!"  When they met up, drinks turned into dinner, which turned into talking all night.  

"It's funny because in a lot of ways we are opposite. She is very sweat, makes friends with everyone, and very independent. I'm a bit edgy and sometimes abrasive, but we really compliment one another and laugh a lot when we are together," our Southern gent says.  "I love how comfortable I feel around her and that we really connect on an emotional and physical level."

Since their first virtual meeting on Okcupid, they have spent a lot of time together including weekend trips for hikes and beach time.  

The Southern gent adds, "It's too early to really say for sure, but i think that her and I have great long term potential and cant wait to see what the future brings.  I'm so grateful for eFlirt Expert's help!"

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Friday
26Feb2010

Free Flirt Advice - March Schedule

Here is the schedule for the month of March. We look forward to seeing you over a cup of coffee!

March 3 - Boston, Starbucks, 755 Boylston St., 4-6PM

March 10 - NYC, Aroma Espresso Bar, 72nd between Columbus & Amsterdam, 4:30-7PM

March 17 - NYC, Aroma Espresso Bar, 72nd between Columbus & Amsterdam, 4:30-7PM

March 24 - NYC, TBD, 4:30-7PM

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What is Free Flirt Advice?
Remember in college, your professors had office hours? There was an open door policy and you could stop by with any questions you had. Well, the eFlirt expert is bringing you office hours for singles! While it's a throw back to your college days, this is not-your-typical syllabus. Every Wednesday, singles of any age can come in for ten minutes of complimentary "extra help" in the flirting department. Topics may include: your online dating profile, first dates, how to write a great email to your match, sex health, texting, etc.

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Thursday
18Feb2010

Will Travel For Love

It is not uncommon for online daters to experience long distance relationships.  In fact, some daters purposefully look outside of their local area so they can truly reach a new crowd of singles.  Below are five eFlirt Expert approved ways to keep the love alive no matter how many miles separate the two of you!

  • Have "Phone Dates."  Make plans to 'pick up' your date at a specific time.  Get wine ready, order a pizza together and start a movie on-demand simultaneously.
  • Send Snail Mail.   Handwritten cards, notes and little treats will show that you care when you can't be there.  This will make the relationship seem more "tangible."
  • Plan, Plan, Plan.  Take turns visiting each other and try to plan trips when you will both be free so you can maximize your time together.
  • Socialize.  When you visit, it's easy to want to hibernate together and really soak in the moments.  Don't forget that it's important to spend time outside of your own world with friends, too!  This will really feel like you are integrating each other into your lives.
  • Text Photos.  Show that they are missed by texting unexpected photos of yourself or places you have been to together.  Snap a shot of something you are doing at the moment that makes you think of them.

As time progresses, make sure that you talk about where things are headed and when you'll discuss moving closer together.  Will it be one year or two before you're ready to compromise location?  Knowing that there is a date to talk about the future will leave you less likely to get frustrated with the miles that separate you both.

 

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Saturday
13Feb2010

Share The Love

In honor of Cupid's special day, I've been having a love-fest by sharing dating advice all over the place! Go find me!

  •  ABC World News interviewed me on mobile dating. It's airs tomorrow, Sunday Feb 14th at 6:30PM EST.
  • LifeGasms Radio is interviewing me about online dating.  Listen in Tues at noon EST to hear my do's and dont's!
  • ComputerWorld was curious about background checking your dates.

There's more coming too ... stay tuned!

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Tuesday
09Feb2010

Check Your List Twice

Everyone subconsciously places potential mates into categories.  I know, you want to believe that you give everyone an equal shot, but if they fall into your C list, it is unlikely that you do!  When you are combing through matches on a website, meeting singles at an event or on a date you think: A) definitely yes, B) OK, or C) maybe.   I’ve had this discussion many times with my male clients.  SingleCityGuy sums it up perfectly for the guys, but it’s time for me to explain it to you ladies! 

Your A List is your gingerbread man.  If I could mix all the ingredients you’re looking for in a man together in a bowl and he would just pop out of the oven … that’s your gingerbread man. 

Your B List is missing a little icing.  He walks the walk and talks the talk of your gingerbread man … but he doesn’t have all the icing you hoped for.  He’s OK, but not perfection. 

Your C List is the guy who you say “maybe” to.  Maybe he’s funny, but not so cute.  Maybe he’s good looking, but not intelligent enough.  Some qualities are great and some are not, so you just don’t really know what to do with him.

Particularly when you date online, it is easy to dismiss B and C listers.  You compare photos and profiles nearly side by side.  That guy isn’t as handsome/smart/funny as this guy, so I’m not going to email this one. 

You don’t want to “settle” by communicating with someone who isn’t one hundred percent ideal on virtual paper, so you stick to gingerbread men.  You might hear back from less of them because their inboxes are overflowing.  Or, you do hear back from many of them but once you start communicating, you realize that the gingerbread isn’t completely golden brown under all that icing. 

The beauty of online dating is that you can date broadly and give more than just your gingerbread man a chance.  If there is something about him that makes you think “maybe,” drop him an email or reply to the one he sent.  He might be sweeter than you think!  Just as an A Lister can become a C Lister, a maybe could turn into a gingerbread man once you get to know him.  You won’t know until you start communicating though, so go for it!

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