By Jessica Hartman, Certified eFlirter, @eFlirtJillofAll
It's Fashion Week here in the Big Apple, so in honor of the best seven days of the year the eFlirt expert is doing a "What Not to Wear" episode of our own — online dating style.
Guys, let's start with you.
I think Cher from the movie "Clueless" said it best:
"So OK I don't wanna be a traitor to my generation and all but I dont get how guys dress today. I mean c'mon it looks like they just fell outta bed and put on some baggy pants and take their greasy hair, ew, and cover it up with a backwards cap and like we're expected to swoon? I don't think so."
Listen to her, fellas. Ladies sometimes spend hours, if not days, on what they're going to wear on a first date. The least you can do is look like you tried. Here is my fool-proof outfit for guys that works on every body type and in pretty much all situations: Straight-leg, dark wash jeans, vertical-stripped button-down shirt, tan blazer and brown boots. NOT cowboy boots, modern ankle boots. If you have no idea what I mean by this description, look at the pictures above.
It says you put some time into your appearance, but didn't try too hard. If you're more of a casual guy and a button-down shirt is not in your vocabulary, try a graphic T-shirt under the blazer. If it's cool out, add a v-neck sweater. There are plenty of ways to personalize it. If it's a day-date, remove the blazer and roll up the sleeves of your button-down. Do NOT wear a button-down shirt with short sleeves.
You are to NEVER, under ANY circumstances wear the following on a date, or ever in life: jean shorts, cargo shorts, sneakers, any visible socks, trucker hats, Crocs, clothes with stains or clothes with holes. Also, a very important thing men tend to forget for some reason is personal grooming. Guys - take a shower, comb your hair, brush your teeth and SHAVE before a date.
Women care what you look like when they're out with you. And it really does show that you care when you take a few extra minutes to clean up. Don't you want them to answer the phone when you call them after the date?
Ok, ladies. It's your turn.
I have a bone to pick with you. It's not so much what you wear, it's what size you're wearing. I see women all the time who shop for someone that is three sizes smaller than them. Stop. Wearing your size is so much more flattering and actually makes you look thinner than trying to squeeze yourself into something that is too small for you. The number on the label shouldn't determine how you feel about yourself. Embrace your size and love your body how it is, not how you want it to be.
Now, every woman frets about what to wear on a first date. It really depends on what you're doing, but lets just assume you're going out to dinner. Every lady should have that little black dress in their closet, but lets try to spice it up a bit. Why not go for a sexy high-waisted skirt and blouse? Or maybe black wide-leg slacks and heels? I recommend one basic piece with a more modern one, like the slacks with a silk floral halter top or a bright skirt with a simpler tank. Blazers are also super-slimming for women, so if you are uncomfortable with your size that's a great way to hide it. Try to wear one piece that has a great pop of color - that will help him remember you.
You should NOT wear the following on a date, or ever in life: scrunchies, horizontal stripes, anything oversized or undersized, nude pantyhoes, mom jeans, sneakers or anything too trendy.
No matter what you wear, your date will recognize if you have taken the time to look good for them and they'll appreciate it. No one wants to go out with a slob!