Summer Getaways: New Relationship

By: Jessica Hartman, Certified eFlirter

Whether you’re brand new lovebirds or celebrating your 10-year anniversary, every relationship deserves a summer getaway. This is part of a four-week long series on the best summer vacation ideas based on your relationship status.

Congratulations! You’ve become exclusive and it’s going strong. You’ve been dating for a little while now and you’re ready to take it to the next step. Relax, I’m not talking about marriage (yet) — I’m talking about your first long weekend away.

Even if you’ve been spending a lot of time at each other’s places, your first real overnight trip together is a great way to get closer to your match and learn a lot about them in a short period of time. You’re getting out of the comfort zone of your city, leaving the distractions of your friends behind and spending some true 1-on-1 time together. Which, if all goes well, could be the best trip of your life. But if it doesn’t, then those three days could seem like years, and you’ll be in for an awkward flight home. So, here’s how to make the most of your first trip away:

Get the 411.  Not everyone has the same views on vacations. Some people would like to lounge on the beach, while others would rather learn to surf or scuba dive. Talk about what you want to get out of the trip before you leave. If you have conflicting ideas, try to settle them before you get on the plane.

Prepare for the ride.  Whether you’re flying or driving, you’re going to be spending at least a couple hours in a confined space with each other. If you have an iPad, download some fun movies to watch together, or make a special playlist for the trip. If it’s a particularly long commute, don’t be afraid to bring some magazines or a book and do some independent reading time. Comfortable silence is better than forced conversation.

Go with the flow.  Once you’re there, keep an open mind. You should each have equal say in where you want to go and what you want to do. If he wants to check out this really cool sports bar that you would rather skip, make him promise to go to that cooking class with you tomorrow, and vice versa. Even if you’re doing something you don’t love, you should still be having fun!

Play 20 questions.  This weekend is all about getting to know your match on a deeper level, and a fun way to do that is with an old-fashioned game of 20 questions. Don’t be afraid to talk about intimate subjects, but if you feel resistance on a particular topic, drop it and quickly go on to something else.

Have fun!  Even if everything goes wrong — your weekend at the beach is rained out, the hotel is awful, your flight is delayed and your luggage gets lost — you can still find a way to have a good time. Just view the trip as an adventure and think of the great story you’ll have later! Remember, what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger, and it’ll make your relationship stronger too.