From Fail To Fab: Flirting On Social Media

By: Jess Downey, Copy Cutie

As a dating blogger, I tend to wear my single status on my sleeve so I’ve been the social media flirtee on more than one occasion. When it’s done well, it can go a really long way. But, when it’s bad, it can get ugly. Here are a few real-life Twitter and Facebook flirting fails so you can be sure to start things off on the right foot.

Fail: When I was a Twitter newbie, a random guy introduced himself and started tweeting with me. Things started to get a little flirty so we took it offline. Then, a few days later, I saw him introducing himself to lots of other women with the exact same introduction he’d sent me.

Fab: Always be conscious that people who follow you can see everything. Like all those spammers, mass tweeting daters are a big no-no.

Fail: A couple of years ago, I started dating a guy who I actually met from Twitter. We made plans for dinner but he had an event so we didn’t set an exact time. I checked-in with him via text and then noticed him checking-in to sushi with a bunch of pals on Foursquare. #Oops.

Fab: If you have to reschedule a date with someone, don’t let social media get to them first. Instead, call them to explain the situation and try to work out other arrangements.

Fail: About a year ago, a guy who reads my personal blog sent me a message on Facebook. We friended each other and he would comment on some of my posts. I kind of had the feeling he was flirting and my suspicions were confirmed, when he asked me out ... on my Facebook wall.

Fab: Asking a gal on a date when all the world can see doesn’t really ignite the warm fuzzies. It’s awkward and there is really no good way to respond to it. Opt for a more private message so you can snag her digits and ask her out properly.

Fail: I made friends with a guy on Twitter and we started a little harmless flirtation -- all offline, of course. We talked about dating, but he told me that it just wouldn’t work because I lived too far away. It didn’t take him long to move on and a few days later I saw him (obviously) flirting with a woman on Twitter. A woman who just happens to live on the other side of the country.

Fab: When you decide you just aren’t that into someone, it’s never a good idea to rub it in their face. And it could give a pretty bitter impression to the person you’re into. Aim to be discrete and take the flirting private.

Remember: Social media opens all kinds of doors -- especially with flirting. But always remember to use your best judgment when you are Tweeting, Facebook and FourSquaring.