By Alyssa Fleischer, Copy Cutie
Strong, solid relationships are based on honesty and dating profiles are no different! The great thing about dating online is that you can search for specific qualities you want in a partner. But when you finally find a good match, you shouldn’t have to second guess whether or not this person is too good to be true. Lying on your profile, even if it’s a white lie or slight exaggeration, can come back to bite you in the end. And since building trust happens in the early stages of any partnership, be sure your Internet persona reflects the you in real time. Here are the top five things that you should avoid lying about on your profile to ensure honesty from the very first click:
1. Physical appearance and age. Keep your photos up to date. Posting a picture of yourself that isn’t true to your present appearance is giving a false pretense as to what you look like. Also, avoid altering your physical description. Don’t you want your match to recognize you when they meet you on your date? And of course, own up to your age. It’ll be awkward if down the line they get an invite to your surprise 40th birthday party if you were supposedly 35 when you met … a year ago. Your match should be interested in you, not a skewed version of yourself.
2. Relationship status. Relationships are like fingerprints; some may be similar, but they’re all distinctively different. Whatever your current relationship status is, be honest on your profile! No one wants to find out down the road that you’re still married and have a second life. The person you match with should be totally OK with whatever baggage you come with, even if it means checking off the “currently separated” box. Just don’t be ashamed — everyone has a relationship past.
3. Career. It’s not necessary to post an annual income online, but be proud of who you are and what you do. Your job can be an opportunity to click with someone who may have the same occupation or might simply be fascinated by your 9 to 5. After all, if you say you’re an entrepreneur but don’t own any viable businesses, matches are such to find out eventually.
4. Religion. Religion can be a sensitive subject for people, as well as a deal breaker. And lying about your faith could be the ultimate betrayal for those who take it seriously. If your beliefs play a large role in your life, make sure you’re putting that on your online profile so matches know this information up front. Or, simply visit a site that’s tailored toward spiritual affiliation.
5. General interests. When looking for a companion, you typically look for someone with similar passions so you have things in common and can do activities together. If you say you’re spontaneous and adventurous when in reality you need to plan everything down to the last detail, your next date might feel like an episode of Fear Factor. And while finding love is like taking a leap of faith, it shouldn’t turn into a literal leap out of a plane a la The Bachelor, holding hands as you jump into the ocean. Unless, of course, you’re up for that!
Have you caught any online daters in a lie? Tell us about it in a comment below.