What Should You Look at When Online Dating?
By Paola Hernandez, Copy Cutie
Online dating can be compared to shopping. With thousands of profiles are at your disposal, it’s easy for you to “window shop” while you find your ideal match. As we’ve mentioned before, profiles are the first impression you have of someone. While of course you need to be aware of what your profile says, what about the eStats of the matches you’re looking at? Below are a few things you should note to help you navigate your way through a sea of digital dating information.
Say Cheese! Many might say they don’t pay attention to looks, but let’s be serious — it’s human nature. There should be some physical attraction to your mate — in addition an intellectual bond, of course. Just like when you’re shopping and you see something you want, you immediately have expectations of what the product is. If after ‘purchasing’ the item (i.e. meeting up in person) and it’s not exactly what you expected, disappointment can ensue. As the ‘shopper,’ you want what you have your eyes set on. Check profile photos for graininess or stray date stamps, which are telltale signs that these shots might be old — and that the person on the other side of the screen might not match up.
In Plain Text. One important thing to remember while online dating is to stay within your comfort zone. When reading someone’s profile you should feel comfortable with what’s on the screen. If a user is ballsy enough to say they’re into S&M (and you know it’s not a joke), keep on moving if that freaks you out. Even if lesser sexual undertones or a Bear Grylls-type lifestyle simply makes you feel queasy, click ‘next.’ You want to share this person’s vibe; if you don’t, this isn’t the match for you. At the end of the day, boundaries are something that should never be compromised.
Talk That Talk (But Talk It Well). Online dating profiles should draw you in with the right words and phrases. Just like a sales associate trying to sell you a $100 cashmere sweater, dating profiles are really just another method people are using to “sell” or market themselves to find a good match. It’s one thing to use shorthand when sending out a message, but users who take the time to write an articulate profile show that they’re truly interested in finding someone. And just like when you’re shopping for that $100 cashmere sweater, you’ll gravitate towards well-spoken sales associates who sound like they know what they’re talking about. If you feel like someone rushed through writing his or her profile, this particular user might not be the right match for you.
What do you look for when browsing through dating profiles? Share with us in a comment below!