By Alyssa Fleischer, Copy Cutie
You landed yourself a first date, congrats! For some, that’s the biggest hurdle to get over. But don’t forget that getting a date is only half the battle; the night itself is still to come and you don’t want to throw your first in-person meeting away because you didn’t think before you spoke. And while you want to get to know someone by asking questions, make sure you don’t ask the wrong ones. Here are five questions you should avoid. If you ask them, your date might be out the door before the check arrives!
1. So — why are you still single? Asking someone why he or she is still single is like asking what’s wrong with him or her. Plus, it opens up the door for your date to redirect the question back to you, and you probably don’t want to open that can of worms, either. Remember, you’re just single as your date is !
2. How many people have you slept with? Without a doubt, this is a conversation that should take place down the road when two people become a couple — if at all. If the discussion comes up and you two are serious, feel free to share the roster, but asking this question on a first date is a sure way to dampen the evening. First dates are awkward enough; don’t set yourself up for unnecessary failure.
3. My place or yours? This isn’t cute or sexy, and it definitely won’t get your date to come home with you on the first night! It’s awesome if you had a great night and sparks are igniting like crazy. But sometimes, waiting until the passion truly burns is best: knowing that the fire is so out of control that the two of you just act means you wont even need to ask this upfront question; you’ll just know! And if the other person doesn’t feel the same way you do, well, it’ll be a long ride home for you that night — alone.
4. What do you think our kids would look like? First off, you don’t really know if this person wants kids. And if they do, who’s to say they want them with you? It’s too much too fast and no one should be put in a position to answer it — and definitely not on a first date! Take about 100 steps back and discuss something a bit more relevant to your current situation — like what your second drink order will be.
5. How do you think the date is going? Let’s be serious — if you have to ask, then it’s not going well. Just be confident, get rid of your insecurities and keep the conversation moving. That way you two will be having so much fun you won’t have time to wonder how your date is going!
Has a first date every asked you one of these questions? Share your story in a comment below!