By: Jess Downey, Copy Cutie
Fail: A few years ago I began dating a new boo. Things started out fairly well between us — we had fabulous dates and made out in front of my apartment. Needless to say, I was jazzed. Then, the spring came. He had warned me that he suffered tremendously from allergies, which I didn’t mind in the slightest. That is, until he canceled a lovely afternoon date I worked hard to plan. But I understood and said we could go out later that week. Well, later came and the same thing happened — he couldn’t make it because his allergies were acting up. To help alleviate this problem I tried letting him plan the dates but still, the same result. After a few weeks passed and we had yet to actually follow through with any dates planed, I decided it was time to bid him adieu.
Fab: It’s perfectly understandable to reschedule a day out when a crazy allergy attack comes up. But keep in mind that the make-a-plan-break-a-plan streak is bound to get on anyone’s nerves after a while. Take as many measures as you can to avoid that.
The easiest way is to stop it before it starts. Plan a date where you know your allergies won’t act up. If flowers bother you, a walk in a botanical garden probably won’t be ideal, so suggest going out for ice cream where you can sit inside instead. And wherever you go, make sure you take your allergy meds, eye drops, tissues — whatever it is you need to get through your day. But if rescheduling is a must, go about it accordingly. And definitely make sure you aren’t rescheduling several dates in a row.
Also, be sure to read the temperature of your date. If it seems like they’re getting antsy to see you, you’ll need to do damage control. It can seem like you’re playing a game of s/he’s-just-not-that-into-you. Do everything you can to reassure your date that you’re still interested. Send them funny cards or even flowers (as an ironic gesture) to their office.
When all else fails, you might have to tough it out for an evening to grab for a quick bite to eat. If it’s someone you’ve been out with a few times, suggest a cozy evening at home. That way you can still hang out but in a comfortable environment.
And of course, if you’re the one dating someone suffering from allergies, be as patient as you can. It’s easy to want to get out and enjoy the fresh, warm spring air — especially if you’ve been cooped up in the cold for so many months. But doing those things with your date might not always be an option. Reserve the outdoor activities for your friends instead.
Remember: Sometimes, no matter how hard we want to do something, our bodies just have a different plan for us. Make sure you let its plan work with you instead of against you. And if all else fails, take your meds!