Getting Stood Up: How To Deal
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All Dressed Up and Nowhere To Go
By Jessica Hartman, Certified eFlirter
It’s every online daters worst nightmare: you meet someone online that you think looks nice, swap a few messages and agree to meet up. On the big day you get ready, arrive at your date spot, grab a drink and wait ... and wait. Half an hour goes by with no calls or texts and you realize you’re being stood up. While most people wouldn’t give someone who has the audacity to do this to another person an additional chance, there are some circumstances that could warrant one.
Things come up, life happens and sometimes, the universe just gets in the way. But thanks to modern technology, there’s usually a way to send a warning text/call/message —something — before your date. Even if it’s during the time the date was scheduled for, some communication, no matter how feeble, is always better than nothing.
If your would-be date gives a legitimate excuse (i.e. family emergency, accident, unexpected work incident) and gives you a heads up, he or she might be worth a second chance. We’ve all been there; let them explain and use your judgment to make the final call.
However, it’s rare that there’s a situation where the other person can’t take five seconds to send you a text. If you find yourself in classic stand-up scenario, your immediate response might be to dial the person’s number and call him or her out on it — but don’t. Take the high road and remember that if someone is willing to do this, you don’t want to date him or her anyway. Instead, give a friend a ring and go out on the town! No need to waste a perfectly good date outfit.
Bottom line: crap happens. Just keep your wits about you. If you think someone deserves a second chance, then give one. If not, it’s certainly not a reflection on you — this person hasn’t even had the pleasure of meeting you yet! And of course, remember that there are plenty of more fish in the sea.
Have you ever given someone a second chance after being stood up? How did it go? Share in the comments below!
Reader Comments (2)
Taking the high road is so hard to do, but you'll feel much better if you do! I often struggle with that and when I don't take the high road, I get nowhere :(
First off, I'm a man not a woman. And I get stood up by Women.
Ever since I entered the world of online dating. Specifically a place called OKCupid.
I'm a decent looking guy and look far younger than my 48 years. In fact some people say I look like that Hall actor who plays Dexter (don't ask me, I Don't watch it or him!). My profile in fact had been deleted multiple times, the idea being that my photo was deemed a Fake because I look something like that guy. Or so it goes. In any case, I make a date to meet a woman somewhere. I wait there an hour. She never shows. I go home and read my email (I Don't carry a phone around, sorry, just not me!) and read a message saying I'm a scammer with multiple profiles don't play games with me, blah blah blah.??!
If I'm waiting around For Her To Show and she doesn't even have the decency to show her face and say Hi! I don't know What the hell's going on.
This is just so bizarre.