By Paola Hernandez, Copy Cutie
When something new begins, like a relationship, the excitement can consume you entirely. But after the first rush of getting to know someone, it’s not uncommon for texts and phone calls to slow down with one person wondering why — and putting in extra effort to keep that initial intensity going. This is a situation where one party wants more, but the last thing you want to come off as is thirsty. Urban Dictionary defines ‘thirsty’ as someone who tries too hard to gain the attention of someone he or she is interested in. Think you’re showing signs of dehydration? Diagnose yourself with these five signs:
1. Tip the Scale. Many phones have a tracking feature that shows the number of times you call and text someone in your contact list. If the amount of outgoing digital messages is higher than incoming ones, slow down! Wait for the person you’re contacting to respond before sending another message (unless it’s an emergency). No one likes feeling bombarded, and being an eager beaver could be your downfall.
2. Pay For the Milk. You were taught to buy the cow, since nothing comes for free. If the first few dates lead to steamy hookups but nothing comes out of it later, don’t be aggressive. Whatever the reason your crush stopped seeing you, respect it. And if he or she wants to take things slow, accept it if you want to keep seeing this person. Constantly pushing for physical affection will drive your boo away faster than people rushing into Best Buy on Black Friday.
3. Don’t Pass Go. Unfortunately, relationships aren’t like Monopoly, where you can collect your prize immediately after passing go. If your new squeeze suddenly says he or she isn’t ready for a relationship, the issue could be you. Talk things out: if someone’s beating around the bush to spare your feelings, it could be a blessing in disguise. Move on to a person who’ll reciprocate your feelings.
4. What a Coincidence! The two of you swapped Facebook deets — a good sign things are moving along great. But don’t stalk the newsfeed and show up where he or she checked into. Whether someone feels it’s too soon to introduce you or just wants a solo night with friends, don’t invite yourself. “Randomly” showing up to his or her favorite bar can signal the stage-5 clinger vibe that might cut your relationship short. Absence can make the heart grow fonder!
5. Take the Scenic Route. Slow down and enjoy the drive. Let the ink on the calendar page dry before making any more plans. Cherish the existing moments you have together without forcing more on someone's plate. Attempting to plan for an Aruba or California vacation after being together for less than six months can be overwhelming for someone just getting used to dating again. Start small and work your way up. (NB: This may indicate that you also suffer from Ted Mosby Syndrome.)
There’s a thin line between enthusiasm and thirstiness, so tread lightly. Dating someone new can bring both excitement and anxiety, so just breathe. Slow and steady will win the race of love.
How can you tell if a person is thirsty? Share in a comment below!