By Kevin Murray, Suave Scribe
In the typical courtship process, the male is often the aggressor. If the guy doesn’t make the first move, the wooing process often stalls. But making that first move can be tough, not to mention that the longer you stay single the more wingmen you lose along the way: your pals get into relationships, mistake babies are had (I’ve seen my friends go through this), wedding bells ring, and before you know it you’re standing there like you’re playing a game of musical chairs with nowhere to sit. Though your single buddies leave you to carry the bachelor torch on your own, there are easy ways to navigate the dating sphere solo. Here’s an eFlirt Expert series brought to you by the first Suave Scribe on figuring out the online dating space on your own.
Unlike women, guys have no internal Valentine’s Day clock that tugs at their heartstrings, telling them to celebrate this Hallmark holiday. Trust me, groups of single bros don’t get together to drink wine and see a movie on February 14th to avoid spending the night alone. Most single men sit at home, relishing the fact that they don’t have to stand in line at Olive Garden for a 90-minute wait with all the other unoriginal couples. This holiday is really one that focuses on the gals, but let’s take a look at three ways you bachelors can spend this V-Day.
1. Treat Your “It’s Complicated” Relationship to a Night Out. You may be casually seeing someone, and it’s possible that neither of you are entirely sure where this relationship is going. Guys, listen — If you want it to go anywhere, you should acknowledge Valentine’s Day. Not saying you have to treat her to a five-star restaurant dinner with a $100 bottle of wine, but do something. Be creative and simple, even if it’s just a card asking her to be your valentine! Little things can mean so much. (Hint: here are some romantic gift ideas.)
2. Self-Destruct Your Current Relationship. All relationships have milestones. One of those is how you handle important dates and holidays, a reason why Christmas always seems to be a make-or-break time for relationships. How many of your friends got engaged on Christmas Eve? (See my point?) Actions speak louder than words. If you’re not sure how to end your current fling, do nothing and barely acknowledge V-Day. We all need an escape clause from time to time; let your silence speak for itself. All’s fair in love and war.
3. Go Hunting on Thirsty Thursday. There’s no doubt that couples will be out in full force everywhere you look. But Valentine’s Day falls on a Thursday night, which is sure to bring out those aforementioned swarms of single-gal support groups. When you go out, wear a red or pink shirt — just roll with the theme and make your clichéd outfit be the conversation starter. I mean, if you’re gonna hit the bars single on Valentine’s night, you might as well play the part. Aphrodisiac is in the in the air, take advantage of it.
Bachelors, what are you planning on Valentine’s Day? Enlighten us!