By Kevin Murray, Suave Scribe
In the typical courtship process, the male is often the aggressor. If he doesn’t make the first move, the wooing process often stalls. But making that first move can be tough, and the longer you stay single, the more wingmen you lose along the way: your pals get into relationships, babies are born (planned or not), wedding bells ring, and suddenly it’s like you’re playing a game of musical chairs with nowhere to sit. Though your single buddies leave you to carry the bachelor torch on your own, there are easy ways to navigate the dating sphere solo. Here’s an eFlirt Expert series, brought to you by the first Suave Scribe, on figuring out the online dating space on your own.
In a perfect world, women would pay for their share of a date. Guys, you don’t bust your asses at work so you can watch your date nibble on an $18 salad and sip the most expensive wine on the menu, right? If you’re dating multiple women online when you’re single (like you should be), the costs of dating can quickly add up. Good luck finding a girl who sticks with $2 draft specials and just orders appetizers — that’s a fairy tale that isn’t happening. You also have women like Jessica Sporty, who openly admits to going on dates just to get free meals.
Men, it’s a jungle out there. Here are some tips to make sure your wallets stay fat.
Never Buy a Drink for a Woman You've Just Met. This is one of the most common mistakes single men make. If you’re on a first meetup, then you can obviously buy her a drink. She’s here because of you! However, if you’re just out at a bar, do.not.buy.her.a.drink. This move rarely works anyway. Women hate it — and the really attractive women get it all the time. Let the other guys at the bar buy her a drink. You shouldn’t have to buy a woman’s conversation time.
Cruising. The car can be a great place to talk. Spend a weekend morning exploring the nearby 'scapes. While you explore new areas, take mental notes of places that interest you. You’ll be surprised at the great spots you can find. Trying new things helps keep your relationship from turning stagnant. And you never know what you may learn during your conversational cruise.
Nature Boy. Unless you’re going to a zoo, most outdoor dates are free. If you can drop the tough-guy image, you can take your date to a park, go for a walk on a hiking trail, or take a beachside stroll. Outdoor activities are great environments to enjoy some quiet conversation without a lot of distractions. Bring lunch and a bottle of wine, and just enjoy a simple get-to-know-you.
Homebody. How many times do you see women write in their ‘about me’ sections that they just like to snuggle up on a blanket with a glass of wine and watch a movie? Why not stay in, order a movie, and relax? Another nice twist to a cold night indoors is a hot chocolate laced with Dr. McGillicuddy’s. You’ll thank me later.
When you have great chemistry with someone, enjoying the simple things together is a true testament to your connection and your romantic potential. Sure, you need to splurge every once in awhile and enjoy a night out on the town, but going broke for love isn't necessary.
What are some of your budget-friendly date ideas? Share in the comments below!