Long Distance Relationships: Pros and Cons

By Paola Hernandez, Copy Cutie

credit: Kuster & Wildhaber Photography (flickr)Long distance relationships: we all talk about them, but only a select few really know how they work. The mystery behind LDRs has allured us all, especially those who’ve ventured into the world of online dating. Sites such as OkCupid, eHarmony and Match have made LDRs a legitimate relationship to pursue, allowing people to search for love well outside the area they call ‘home’. Before you disregard the concept of love outside your zip code, here are a few points to consider.

Pros

Expand Your Horizons.  Living in a small urban area as opposed to a metropolis like New York City or Chicago, your options for love might be limited. Once you open the possibility from 5 miles to 500, the possibility for true love becomes vast.

The Unbreakable Bond.  The prospect of getting to know someone on a deeper level is greater when there is distance between you. Utilizing technologies such as Skype, FaceTime and chatting on the phone is the best way to stay in touch. Taking the time to chat and learn about each other shows that you’re willing to make an emotional investment.

Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder.  This mentality towards dating comes off a tad bit cliché, but it’s a positive way to view LDRs. When you’re in the “honeymoon” stage of the relationship, all you want to do is spend time with each other. This can cause the flame to burn out quickly. When a couple has distance between them, the time they spend together is unforgettable.

Cons

Spend, Spend, Spend.  In this economy, it’s normal to be financially conscious when making decisions regarding travel. The farther your significant other lives from you, the harder it gets to coordinate trips. If you live in NYC and he/she lives in Seattle, flying out all the time can wreak havoc on your wallet.

Total Eclipse of the Heart.  You’re out with your friends and, unintentionally, you end up as the fifth wheel. When your boo can’t easily commute to you, it can get lonely. Sure, you can speak to each other on the phone, but the intimate contact two people share in person just can’t compare to a text.

To Trust or Not to Trust?  The farther apart you are from each other, the harder it can be to trust your partner completely. It can be difficult to shake that feeling, because the last thing you want to come off as is jealous. This underlining feeling may eventually lead to accusations and arguments. No one likes to have fights, especially with someone they care deeply about.

Long distance relationships aren’t for everyone. If you’re not completely invested in the person and willing to make a few choices in regards to traveling, it can be difficult. Before you disregard the concept altogether, give it a shot. You might surprise yourself by finding out that your heart’s into it.

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