Top 5: Signs You’re THAT Booty Call

By Paola Hernandez, Copy Cutie

credit: pasa47 (flickr)Not all people are cut out to be in a monogamous relationship, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But everyone should have a clear distinction of whether a fling is strictly a booty call or has the potential to grow into something more. If you’ve spent a ton of time together and start to notice a slight chill in the air, pay attention. Here are some signs you might only be a booty call to keep under wraps.  

1. Access Denied.  Everyone shares with people differently on Facebook. And just because you sent a friend request doesn’t guarantee he or she will accept it. If someone doesn’t view you on an intimate level, they’ll most likely hold back on letting you see personal deets. Certain things are better left in mystery, especially if things are still casual between you two. For all you know, they might be posting silly things on their wall, like memes. You don’t need that cluttering your newsfeed.

2. Call Me Maybe.  Whenever you hear from your guy or gal, it’s only for a hook up. They’re looking to have a good time and you’re that source of fun. Hitting you up way past your bedtime is another sign that you might mean nothing more than a night of fun. Does the word ‘Hey’ have too many y’s in it? When you dial them up (or you pick up their call), do they sound drunk? They have the need and looking to you to do the deed. If you’re DTF, respond, but remember you’re adding fuel to the fire.

3. All By Myself.  You don’t have plans, so you decide to text him or her to see what they’re up to. They’re out and about with friends, and you’re hoping for an invitation to join or for them to ask about your plans. Some like to keep parts of their life separate from their daily grind, which is acceptable. And he or she might not be ready to introduce to their friends without giving a proper definition of your relationship. Keep things casual by texting back to enjoy their night and that you’ll see them soon.

4. Hit and Run.  If they’re out the door after a night of fun faster than the speed of light, there’s nothing more than rolling in the sheets on their mind. Cuddling and spooning is seen as romantic, something intimate they’ll only do with someone they have intense feelings for. There’s no interest in pillow talk or to get to know you on a deeper level — and, they might be seeing someone else that night and don’t want to linger around.

5. The Weekend Warrior.  The weekly work week grind can be exhausting for everyone and we all look forward to the weekend to get loose. The surefire way to know if you’re only viewed as a booty call is if they only text on Peak Party Days: Thursday, Friday, Saturday. And Sunday through Wednesday, they’re like ghosts. They don’t want to hear from you and won’t answer your text. Save yourself the annoyance and wait for them to contact you. If they truly want to see you, they need to make the effort.

When people enter a ‘Friends with Benefits’  relationship, the terms and conditions should be defined right away. If any of these signs sound familiar, think about defining the relationship so you’re both on the same page.

Know another identifier of being a booty call? Share below!