By Kevin Murray, Suave Scribe
In the typical courtship process, the male is often the aggressor. If the guy doesn’t make the first move, the wooing process often stalls. But making that first move can be tough, not to mention that the longer you stay single the more wingmen you lose along the way: your pals get into relationships, mistake babies are had (I’ve seen my friends go through this), wedding bells ring, and before you know it you’re standing there like you’re playing a game of musical chairs with nowhere to sit. Though your single buddies leave you to carry the bachelor torch on your own, there are easy ways to navigate the dating sphere solo. Here’s an eFlirt Expert series brought to you by the first Suave Scribe on figuring out the online dating space on your own.
One of the greatest compliments I’ve ever received from a girl was regarding date ideas. I gave her a bunch of date suggestions I thought would’ve been great – and after listening to my offers she replied, “It doesn’t matter, I could have fun with you in a cave.” The simplest element to make a great date is really the chemistry between two people. Great chemistry can make a great date happen anywhere. But, for the purpose of this article, we’re going to assume you and your date aren’t swooning over each other in a cave.
Here are five ways to make your date memorable:
Pick a nice environment. A poor environment selection can sink the positive energy right out of your date. Learn your date’s likes and dislikes and pick a spot where you’ll both be comfortable. Sometimes a day can call for a loud festive atmosphere and at other times a quiet, romantic situation. Get a gauge of her pulse and go from there.
Take as much as you give. Relationships should always be two-way streets. Make sure you divulge just as much information as you receive. Dominating the conversation can make one of you feel left out.
Spice is nice. By no means should you sit across from your date all night and drop sexual innuendos if that’s not your style. With that said, preheating the oven while on a date can make it very memorable. A gradual progression of passion to the point where you want to rip each other’s clothes off can make any date great.
Open your heart. Treat your heart like a valve. You should open it up more depending on the pace of your budding relationship and how many dates you’ve been on. So this doesn’t mean you open the floodgates on date one and dump all your emotional baggage out on the tape – save your five-year plan of kids and a house with a white picket fence for the appropriate time.
Don’t be afraid to live in the moment. If the moment calls for it, just do it. Raining outside on the way back to your car? Stop your date midway and just let the rain fall around you as you passionately make out. Some of the most random moments make the best memories.
If you can spread a healthy balance of these elements most of your dates will be good and hopefully end up great!
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