By Kevin Murray, Suave Scribe
In the typical courtship process, the male is often the aggressor. If the guy doesn’t make the first move, the wooing process often stalls. But making that first move can be tough, not to mention that the longer you stay single the more wingmen you lose along the way: your pals get into relationships, mistake babies are had (I’ve seen my friends go through this), wedding bells ring, and before you know it you’re standing there like you’re playing a game of musical chairs with nowhere to sit. Though your single buddies leave you to carry the bachelor torch on your own, there are easy ways to navigate the dating sphere solo. Here’s an eFlirt Expert series brought to you by the first Suave Scribe on figuring out the online dating space on your own.
I love women — always have, always will. But sometimes, they do things that drive me (and all men) nuts. Ladies, before you bite my head off, let me tell you that I’ve been on a ton of dates so this annoyance has been building for years. Here are the most frustrating things that can kill any positive momentum of a budding romantic relationship.
Breaking out the five-year plan too soon. “Hey, I just met you and this is crazy but I want a big house and at least three babies.” Chill out there, sweetheart. While I do want to know what your ultimate goals are in life, we should ease into them first. As a guy, I can barely tell if I want to wake up in the same bed with you every day, let alone raise kids with you. Let’s wait a few dates/weeks before I discuss what our hypothetical babies would be named.
Complain about exes. Who doesn’t like a good bitching session, right? It can be therapeutic to rip on your[exes together and laugh about it. But be sure to not bring the topic of the ex up too early. When you dwell on the past too much it only leads us to believe you’re not completely over him — and makes us think you’re somewhat “damaged goods.”
Withholding sex. There’s nothing more frustrating in a man’s life than being romantically involved with a woman that’s withholding sex, especially if she’s being a tease about it. Here are two important things to note: 1) guys don’t typically hang out with chicks alone that they don’t want to sleep with and 2) we think about sex all day long, which means were thinking about what we’d like to do to you constantly. If we’re not getting action — and if you’re intentionally flaunting your goods in front of us — we’re eventually going to look for it somewhere else. Hate to say it but aß man can only take so much.
Constantly fishing for compliments. Women like men with confidence — and men like their women with confidence, too. When you’re confident, you don’t need anyone to reassure you. Some (well … all) women have a habit of phrasing comments in a way where we have to say, “That’s not true,” when they’re being down on themselves. As men we know it will always be our job to step in and say you look good. Just don’t go overboard; throwing too many fishing lines in the water gets aggravating when the lines get tangled.
Over-texting. Let me first say that texting is one of the biggest assets to ever hit the dating scene — they’re game changers. But there can be such a thing as “texting abuse.” A lot of tonality is lost in translation of texting. Ladies, when you have something serious to say it’s still best to tell us over the phone — or better yet, to our faces!
Bros, how you deal with your frustrations? Leave a comment below!