By Krissy Dolor, Director of eFlirting
It’s the week of L-O-V-E, the time of year we’re showered in pink hearts and chocolate kisses by simply walking through the card or candy aisles at CVS. It’s great if you’re in a solid, committed relationship and already know what to expect. If you’re not, this high-emotion holiday can be hard to navigate, whether you’re in like, lust, or just think you’re falling in lurrvvveeee? And if you’re not “in” anything at all, what are you even supposed to do? Regardless of what your Facebook relationship status is (or isn’t) here are five don’ts to keep in mind on the 14th.
1. Don’t go on a first date. We get it. You want The One, or simply any “one” that will do. However, don’t go out on a date with someone on Valentine’s Day for the sake of not being alone. Think about it — you’ll either be surrounded by lovey-dovey, vomit-inducing couples pressuring you to create your own chemistry, or you’ll be smothered by singles drinking their own sorrows away. Get to know someone without the pressure of your first meet-up landing on the biggest commercial love holiday of the year.
2. Don’t drop “I love you” for the first time. This one should be self-explanatory. Just like you shouldn’t say the big L word right before or after (or in the middle of) doing the deed for the first time, you also shouldn’t say this four-letter word just because you think it’s the right thing to do. The sentiment should come naturally and should never be dictated by a holiday (the first time it’s said, at least).
3. Don’t hate on your couple friends. Whether you’re alone, seeing someone casually, or even if you’re in a relationship yourself — don’t crap on your friends that love the crap out of Valentine’s Day, no matter how cheesy they are. Same thing goes for the couples that hate the holiday. Everyone’s entitled to celebrate … or ignore … the big V Day. Use the 14th to focus on you and your situation, whether you’re happily/bitterly single/taken. (We’re aware both sentiments can go both ways.)
4. Don’t drink too much. Regardless of where you stand on the love scale, you shouldn’t use the holiday as an excuse to drown away your sorrows, assuming you’re single and miserable. Even if you’re single and lovin’ it, slow down the booze intake. Just like any other night, you want to ensure you’re still able to make good decisions if you’re out with friends, a guy or gal you’re currently seeing, or simply riding solo for the night.
5. Don’t have expectations. The worst thing you can do is have expectations of how the day will turn out, whether you’re fantasizing about meeting Prince Charming while out at a singles event or assuming your long-term boyfriend will finally ask you to move in — or marry him. Regardless of what Hallmark says, Valentine’s Day is a day like any other. Treat it as such, and you’ll find that when the extra fun and loving things do happen, you’ll be pleasantly surprised, no matter what day of the year it is. After all, the only holiday when everyone is obligated to be nice to you is your birthday!
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