Shift Your Dating Perspective

By: Laurie Davis, Founder

Photo courtesy of Match.com

Photo courtesy of Match.com

It’s a big day for me because I’ve been waiting two years to tell you the secret I’m going to let you in on today. The idea began a few summers ago during a beach retreat in Cape Cod with my team. I had been thinking about the consistent issues our female clients were having when online dating, and how they actually weren’t issues on their screens. Instead, their problems all stemmed from a place within their hearts. Most of the time, when people complained about a dating site, it was actually their emotions that were in the way. It had nothing to do with the site at all. And in most cases, they didn’t even recognize it — not until they started to make more conscious changes.

When we were able to shift a client’s perspective and help them approach online dating from a different emotional level, they met someone amazing. It was a magical transformation. So we started brainstorming: What specifically was it that we were doing for these clients that helped them?

I wanted to solve questions that women have, like:

How can you feel better about the necessary act of dating multiple people when you are looking for a long-term commitment?

How can you find better matches for yourself than even the dating algorithms can?

How can you stop overthinking when it comes to a guy you’re interested in?

I keep saying “women” and I know you’ve never seen anything from me that is this gender specific. However, I’ve found that men and women approach online dating differently, so I wanted to start with the trends I’ve been finding with female clients. I also had this vision of a really amazingly supportive group where women could help each other, even when I’m not around, a community where females can connect with others going through the same things they are.

So last summer, I got 10 amazing women together and ran my first group coaching program with this very unique agenda and the result was major transformation. The program happened completely online, so women from different parts of the country joined. Nearly every single one of those 10 woman had their own major “ah ha” moment, like Heather, who realized she was trying to prevent rejection by selecting guys who weren’t that appealing. (Could this be the reason none of her relationships were working out, but before she couldn’t put her finger on? Why yes!) Debbie really summed up the way people felt when she said, “I’m not the same person I was before.”

And now, I want to help you make a transformation like this in your love life, too. This 8-week group coaching begins March 3. For two months, you get a weekly video master class from me, a live Q&A with yours truly, weekly “Heartwork” for you to do some guided exploration into your emotions, and a community full of other women just like you. I’m keeping the group very small because curating such a tight-knit community was such a huge factor last time, so enroll before it fills up.

Can’t wait to see you March 3!