How to Get Back In the Game

Credit: FlavioSarescia (Flickr)

Credit: FlavioSarescia (Flickr)

By Paola Hernandez, Copy Cutie

When you’re out of the dating loop for so long, getting back into it isn’t as simple as it seems.  The feeling is very similar to starting at a brand new school, mid-year. You know what’s going on, but it can be a little overwhelming. Whether you’ve been in a relationship for six months or six years, you can make that work for your advantage. Summer is the perfect time of year to bounce back into the game. A little hesitant on how to go about this? Here are a few tips on reintroducing yourself to the romantic wilderness:

Exploration is Key
It’s hard to find your next big fling unless you see who’s out there. New to online dating? There are so many sites and apps that can cater to what you’re looking for. If kicking it old school is more your thing, put yourself out there. Visit a new bar or check out a new restaurant because breaking out of your comfort zone can be key. Whether you’re looking on- or offline, making yourself available is what’s going to make you successful.

Save the Drama for Your Mama
Whoever decided that the relationship has reached its end is irrelevant because you need to keep on moving. Nothing makes a person less attractive than hearing them bring up their previous relationship when you’re on a brand new date. Enjoy the new memories you’re creating, and don’t dwell on the “what-would’ve-been”s. Enjoy the new experiences and always keep in mind the wise words of Ferris Bueller: “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.”

Suit Up!
Barney Stinson has the right idea when it comes to suiting up for the occasion. The right wardrobe can put some spring into your step, especially when going on that first date with your new match. With first impressions meaning everything, you need to bring in you’re a Game.  Buy that new jacket or splurge on those shoes you’ve had your eyes on for weeks. Bringing sexy back will bring that sexy person coming back for more.

Don’t Stop Believin’
You need to go into each date with an open mind and open heart. Yes, you secretly hope that the each one will be your last first date, but keeping strict expectations can seriously restrict your fun! There’s always a possibility that the person you’ve swiped right to could be your next relationship, but don’t build up that mindset. Have fun and when you least anticipate it, you could fall in love.

Getting back into the dating scene isn’t easy and can be scary. Walking into it with confidence will be your wheelhouse.  Enjoy the new people you meet, and it will be an amazing summer. Always remember that you’ve been single before, and it’s like riding a bike. You never forget how to ride -- you just need to get back on.

Do you have any pearls of wisdom on getting back into dating? Share with us below!