Most Popular Online Dating Day Of The Year

By: Laurie Davis, Founder

The Sunday after New Year's -- today! -- is the highest traffic day for online dating of the year. On Plenty of Fish, the peak of eFlirting happens at 5pm while on Match.com, 8pm is the ideal time, though this is a trend across the board. With lots of eDaters searching for their love at first click, comes lots of competition too. This morning, I went live on FOX & Friends to give tips for taking best advantage of this busy day of dating. 

My top five tips:

1. Search for people who are "online now." This will show you others who are active at the time. Messaging people who are online at the moment can mean quicker interactions and getting offline sooner -- which is the whole point of online dating! After about six exchanges total, you should be meeting up. 

2. Upload a new photo. Photos are so important on dating sites but you definitely want to do this during peak traffic times because it's the easiest way to optimize your profile and ensure you're showing up highest in your match's search results. 

3. Curb competition. Remember that when you're dating on the highest traffic day of the year, it means there is more activity in your match's inboxes. It's more competitive. So search and message matches on your own too -- and make sure you connect with them over something meaningful, ideally a commonality. "Hi, if you like my profile email me back," isn't going to cut it. 

4. Make it easy for people to message you. This means being specific in your profile. For example, rather than saying you're "adventurous" tell a little story about something adventurous you did. Are you a marathoner or do you prefer to travel? Tell a quick story about a recent adventure to make your personality and lifestyle tangible. Specifics make it easy for someone to connect with you ... and message you.

5. Don't be afraid to follow up. People's inboxes are busy high traffic periods. If you don't hear back from someone you really liked, wait about 10 days and say hello again. This may seem aggressive to some, but our clients get incredible results by doing this. For one client, four out of five guys wrote her back! So this tip even still applies to ladies -- it's not aggressive, it's proactive.

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Buy One, Gift One Sale

It’s equally exciting to give as it is to get during the holidays – especially when the gift is heart centered and personal. I hear singles say, “I just want my best friend to find love; she really deserves a partner,” so this holiday season, we’ll be giving you the chance to both give love and receive it in return. From now until the end of the year, when you buy one of our digital dating services – like the Love At First Site package, which gets you a brand new dating profile written by an expert, selection of all your photos, a dating site suggestion, and first-timer advice – you’ll receive the same service for free to gift to a friend.* Just use code BOGiftOne at checkout.  

We’re doing this because dating online can feel like a solo act – you sit at a screen by yourself, message matches, and then wait impatiently, hoping you’ll hear back. But the whole process is more fun when you’re doing it with your bestie, especially when the dates begin, and you can laugh together over the dud you met or gush about your latest crush. When you both work with eFlirt, you’ll have instant confidence in your digital flirting persona, and gifting love to your friend will keep you warm on the inside, too. 

Falling in love is one of the top ten things we hope next year will hold for us, according to a New Year’s resolution study by the University of Scranton. Get a jump on making you and another’s hearts leap whether it’s a family member, friend, or co-worker by gifting and receiving love!

 

* Valid only for new purchases. All Terms and Services Conditions apply to this sale. You must enter the specified promo code at checkout in order to receive this promotion. Buy one select service at its regular retail price and get the same select service for free. Both services may not be redeemed by the same individual; the free service MUST be gifted and redeemed by another person. Promotion cannot be applied to Happy Hour or Concierge services, or toward the purchase of gift cards. Buy one, get one free promotion cannot be combined with other promotional offers.

 

Dos and Don'ts: Online Inter-Office Dating

By Katherine Wood

There are millions of people out there looking for love, and one of the top ways of finding your dream guy or girl is to join online dating sites. More than 41 million Americans have tried online dating at least once, according to Statistic Brain. While these sites are very popular and can work quite well, there is also the chance that you might run across someone you know from work. This is especially the case if you work for a large corporation or office.

Location-based dating and relationship apps (i.e. Tinder and Hinge) also are becoming more prevalent—meaning 45 million matches in Tinder's first few months, according to Forbes. Accordingly, you might find more people close to where you are: inside your workplace. So what should you do if you find someone who interests you? When it comes to inter-office dating, there are definitely some dos and don'ts that you should keep in mind. Here are a few of them:

DO - Check Out Your Company's Policy

Though many companies accept inter-office dating, most won't encourage it, and some outright forbid it. Look it up under your office dating policy. You might find that you are required to tell your supervisor that you are dating a co-worker, or you might have to sign a contract. Failure to stick to the company policy could lead to termination, so make sure to do the right thing before acting on a crush.

DON'T - Date a Team-Member

If your company allows co-workers to date, you're probably in the clear. However, avoid dating someone you directly manage or your superior. You won't want to deal with any accusations of favoritism, abuse of power, or social climbing. These can create unfortunate situations for you, for your date, and for anyone else on your team.  

DO - Set Some Boundaries

You should also make sure that you are setting some commonly agreed-upon boundaries. For example, keep it professional at work. You may even want to avoid crossing paths at work unless absolutely necessary. By keeping your work and your relationship as separate as possible, you will likely find more success when it comes to your relationship and job performance.

DON'T - Show Signs of Affection at Work

Any type of unprofessional contact at work is inappropriate, regardless of what happens at home. Even if your coworkers know about your relationship, that doesn't make it any less personal, no matter where you two met. When at the office, keep the physical interactions as brief and as simple as possible.

DO - Understand What Could Happen When It Ends

Finally, understand what will happen if this relationship ends. Though it is certainly possible you could be together forever, that may not be the case. This can be problematic if you work together and could even cross legal lines if things get dirty. For instance, if you go through a nasty breakup, what will you do if your ex goes to HR and complains about something you did or said? This could seriously affect your job and even your career prospects down the road. This isn't to say you shouldn't date a co-worker, it simply means you should consider all of the good and bad before things get too serious.

Online and location based app dating is extremely popular, and odds are probably high that you will run into someone you know. Before contacting them online for a date, make sure that this is something you want to get into and something you can handle. The most important thing is to make sure you keep a clear head and know the effect that this kind of relationship could have on your career.

Katherine Wood is Managing Editor at Talent Tribune, where she writes about people, technology, and HR software.

10 Ways to Maximize Your Free Communication Weekend

New year, new love! eHarmony is having a free communication weekend, starting Friday, January 2 until Sunday, January 4, giving you the opportunity to fulfill that New Year's resolution of falling in love.

"Free" sounds exciting, but three days is a short amount of time on a dating site. Here is a guide to help optimize your free trial, so you can meet your One ... or decide if Chemistry is worth the long-term committing:

1. Act quickly. Sign up as soon as the offer starts. Take the personality tests, complete your profile and upload your photo right away. You only get a select number of matches each day, so the sooner you complete your account, the sooner you can start eFlirting. 

2. Don't skimp. Fill out your profile completely — including photos — and put some thought into it. If you skimp on information, your matches won't be as responsive and your time won't be as productive.

3. Review matches every day. You get the most matches when you review them each day. And of course, this will help speed up communication so you're more likely to get offline by the end of the free trial. Download the app so you can stay connected throughout the weekend. The sooner you respond, the sooner your match will have the chance to as well!

4. Be available. A lot of new members will be taking advantage of this free weekend, so expect quicker response times. Choose the fast track with slow pokes so you can create the strongest bond possible before the trial ends. 

5. Say yes to maybes. Go through your matches and start communicating. If you think someone's a "maybe," go for it. You never know who might surprise you! Maximizing the time you have and broaden your horizons.

6. Don't feel pressured. If you're not intrigued by a particular match, don't think that you have to go out with him or her. Just because you went through several steps of communication doesn't mean you should feel pressured. Trust your instincts. 

7. Meet sooner. You don't have to exchange a million emails before you meet. Just be sure to meet in a public place and plan something non-committal, like coffee or a drink.

8. Give contact info. If your trial is coming to a close and you don't think the site is for you, give your contact info to all of your matches so you don't lose touch. Set up a separate Gmail account so your full name remains secure.   

9. Join! If you liked the experience, join the site. You can continue to communicate uninterrupted and will get a steady stream of new matches. 

10. Don't get discouraged. If your weekend wasn't as successful as you had hoped, that doesn't mean that online dating isn't for you. Nine times out of 10, it just means that you were on the wrong site! A dating site is only as good as your matches on it. Most major paid sites offer trials, and if you follow this blog you'll be in the know. In fact, Match.com offers three free days anytime!

Here's to finding that new special someone to cozy up with thanks to free communication weekends. Happy eFlirting!

Expert Take on OkCupid Experiment

By Laurie Davis

OkCupid is infamous for their studies on user behavior. In their latest one, OkCupid experimented on humans, shifting people's experience on the site in an attempt to control the outcome. They hid profile text, changed your actual match percentage with another individual, and sat back to see how you'd react. Watch the video below to view thoughts on this controversial experiment as told to Fox News