Fail To Fab: The First Phone Call
By: Jess Downey, Copy Cutie
Fail: About a month ago, I received a message from a guy on an online dating site. After chatting for a while, he asked for my number. A couple of days later he sent a text. We exchanged small talk and he asked when I was free. Assuming he was asking so we could meet in person, I told him Sunday.
The next night, he texted and asked when I was free … again. I reminded him of our previous conversation, but he said he wanted to know when I was free so we could talk on the phone. I said if he wanted to call me, he should just call me. I have yet to receive that phone call.
Fab: The online dating courtship often moves at a slower pace than offline, but there’s no need to delay things even more. No one wants to spend three or four days chatting online, then three or four days texting about when to call, then another three or four days talking about when to meet. Instead, KISS (keep it simple, stupid) — send a few rounds of messages, then ask for her number and call.
It’s normal (and sweet) to want to be respectful of someone’s time. But it’s not rude to call someone when they’re busy. Keep in mind that a gal doesn’t expect you to know her schedule when you barely even know her — and it’s a bit creepy if you did. She’ll either take a break from what she's doing or call you back later.
Remember: If a gal gives you her number on a dating site, it’s safe to say she’s interested and wants you to call her. So use it or she’ll lose you.