From Fail to Fab: Meeting The 'Rents
By: Jess Downey, Copy Cutie
Fail: A couple of years ago, I met this guy from Facebook. It was one of those dates that started as drinks then turned to dinner and ended with a little make-out sesh. Later, he invited me over to his place for dinner and being the kind of gal who gets mushy over a guy who knows his way around the kitchen, I was psyched. He opened the door and led me up to his roof deck. I was thinking cute little romantic dinner, maybe some gorgeous views of the city …
Up on the roof deck I was greeted by a large group of people. He then introduced me to his mom, dad, a couple of cousins and his Nana. Nothing like hitting full speed on the relationship train. #Awkward
Fab: It’s pretty admirable that you want a gal to meet your whole family. In fact that’s the kind of thing that gives us the warm fuzzies. But, meeting the ‘rents is a pretty big deal and should be treated as just that. There’s no need for a lavish affair, but try giving it more thought than you would a last minute trip to your fave dive bar.
Surprises are great. That is, when they come in the form of flowers or reservations at a cute little restaurant. If you’re ready to take a leap, be careful not to totally blind side someone. Instead, share that with the other person to be sure they are ready, too.
While it’s true that the timeline for meeting the parents is different for every relationship, the second date is seldom the right time. Make sure that you and your love interest have ample time to get to know each other before taking such a huge step.
Remember: In dating, there is a time and a place for everything -- so be sure to plan accordingly.