Fail to Fab: Dating the Starving Artist
By: Jess Downey, Copy Cutie
Fail: A couple of months ago, I went on a date with a very cute Brooklynite. Over drinks he told me about his crappy temp job and said he really aspired to be a painter. He showed me some pictures of his work, along with his website from his phone. Of course, I was salivating — I have a thing for artsy guys. After a few drinks he told me he had to cut the evening short because his funds were low. Then when the check came, he slammed down a five-dollar bill and said he thought we’d go dutch; our bill was $20.
Fab: You might not be a millionaire but that doesn’t mean you can completely forget about being a gentleman. Spending hundreds of dollars isn’t necessary, but at least plan a nice evening you can afford and offer to pick up the tab at the end.
Instead of ending the date abruptly because you’re “low on funds,” get the check after a couple of drinks and then head out for a nice walk. That way you can end the date and still maintain that romantic vibe without the reminding yourself (and your date) that money isn’t plentiful.
Being creative can give you the upper hand, so rock it. Woo your date and take a fun class or go to a museum. And there are always Groupons or freebie deals online you can take advantage of. This way, you’re guaranteed to have a great date without the unexpected costs of running up a bar tab.
Of course, if you’re flat broke, it might be a good idea to put dating on hold until you’ve saved a few. And if you’re a gal who likes to wine and dine, the starving artist probably isn’t for you.
Remember: Dating isn’t all about money. Plan something that’s fun, romantic and within your budget so you can avoid any unnecessary awkward moments.