Fail to Fab: Taking a Leap in Dating
By: Jess Downey, Copy Cutie
Fail: A few years ago I received a message from a guy on an online dating site. He was a lot shorter than I am and initially, I wasn’t that attracted to him — so much so that I had put him in my ‘not interested’ pile while sorting through matches. But his message was witty so I thought, “I’ll give it a try,” and we exchanged a few messages. One night we chatted via instant message, and that conversation lasted far longer than I care to admit. Since we literally could not stop chatting with each other, we planned to meet. We ended up dating for a while but eventually went our separate ways; he wanted kids and I’m not sure if I do. But I often think if it weren’t for that issue we would have made it — me and a guy I ‘wasn’t interested’ in.
Though this story isn’t technically a fail, if I hadn’t taken a leap and messaged a guy I was so-so about it would have been — a huge one.
Fab: You should never force yourself to go out with someone who makes you want to throw up in your mouth, but not all matches will instantly make you think “look at this hottie.” If you’re feeling lukewarm about someone in the looks department, there’s no harm in chatting online to see whether there might be some sparks.
Most internet daters know that you should always put your best foot forward. After all, your Internet profile is someone’s very first impression of you. But keep in mind that you’re still dealing with human beings. Clicking through matches is far different from flipping through your latest issue of Cosmo.
Also remember that there’s a difference between someone who didn’t take the time to bother with his or her profile and someone who isn’t exactly poetic with words. If there are common interests, it might be worth it to send a few messages and see if there’s chemistry.
Remember: Just because you respond to a message doesn’t mean you have to meet, date, or marry the person. But if you don’t take the time to explore, you might miss out on the chance to meet, date, or marry the person that ends up being “The One.”
Have you ever taken a “leap” in dating? We’d love to hear your story in a comment below!