Mi Casa es Su Casa: Moving in Together
By Kristin Manganello, Copy Cutie
For couples, signing a lease together is a lot more than agreeing to a legal contract — it symbolizes a step forward in the relationship. But taking on the dual role of lover and roommate can be tricky, as dealing with practical matters like location and finances can add to simpler concerns, like what to eat for dinner. No matter how well you know each other, there will be an adjustment period while the two of you fuse your respective lives together. Here are four tips to help you smoothly navigate this exciting journey.
1. Improve your habits. In the months leading up to moving day, both you and your honey should think about “the toilet seat” — literally. If you often forget to put the seat down, remember that your lover might find it inconsiderate. Moreover, work towards breaking the habit (and any other ones) in question. And if you’re the offended party, don’t give your partner grief if they forget every now and again. Realize that things like this aren’t such a big deal in the grand scheme of things.
2. Compromise. You should never compromise your core values and needs, but when you're starting to share your life with another person you have to let go of at least some of the little stuff. So will your significant other. Maybe your sweetie would rather live sans TV but you can’t imagine living in a place where you can’t watch the latest episode of The Big Bang Theory. Talk about your differences openly and without judgment so that you can find solutions that you’re both comfortable with (like streaming episodes online).
3. Get acquainted with each other's hobbies. You don’t have to adopt them as your own, but it’s good to participate a few. If your lover can’t get enough of video games but you haven’t played since Super Nintendo days, pick up that controller and give it a try. Remember: the couple that shoots digital zombies together stays together. How else will you find out if you can count on your lover in the event of a zombie apocalypse? All joking aside, showing interest in each other's hobbies is an easy way to create a comfortable, homey environment.
4. Practice makes perfect. Until you sign that lease, use the downtime that you have together effectively. Channel your inner child and play house with your significant other. Go grocery shopping, pick out curtains and paint colors, or take up a domestic hobby and cook together. You’ll get a better sense of what’s important to each other and what your preferences are.
Once you’ve finally snagged an abode, you’ll possibly still face challenges. Incorporating everything you’ve prepared for into real life is easier said than done. For now, don’t get ahead of yourself. Moving in together is indeed a big step, but it’s still just one single step in a series of many.
What are some of your suggestions to make moving in together easier? Tell us about it in a comment below!