Repeat Relationships: When Is It Time To Let Go?
By Paola Hernandez, Copy Cutie
“But you don’t really love me, you just keep me hanging on.” — Diana Ross & The Supremes.
Breaking up is sometimes hard to do and can often be full of drama. With that said, calling it quits with the same person over and over again is nothing but drama. But when you care about someone so much, it’s hard to realize when it’s time to let go … for real. Factors like consistency, family and normalcy can affect your decision on whether to keep the spark going or hit the ground running. Below are some indicators of when it’s time to walk away.
Somebody That I Used To Know — In any relationship, both people involved go through emotional growth and change. Sometimes this change is something you want to fix in hopes you’ll bring them back to the way they were in the beginning in the relationship when you two were still in the “honeymoon” phase. If you’re unhappy with the person your partner has become, this might be a sign to walk away. While it’s sad to see someone change, resistance can be futile.
You Can’t Teach An Old Dog New Tricks — If your partner tends to be too argumentative or worse (like a repeat cheater) it might be time to walk away. The lingering trust issue will float over your head like a rain cloud and will dampen the time you spend together. If you’re constantly worrying whether he or she will stray away again, do yourself justice and sever your ties. Nothing is worse than stressing over on something that won’t change. Save yourself the drama!
The Light Switch — On and off relationships are never easy. There’s always someone who’s more invested in the relationship than the other. Taking a break from the relationship to reevaluate the situation is perfectly normal but if it happens more times than you switch your bathroom light on and off there's a problem. Getting back together multiple times with someone can prevent you from finding your ideal match — you know, one you don’t need to keep breaking up with. By closing yourself off to someone who hasn’t proved him or herself worthy of sticking around for means you’re missing opportunities to meet someone right. “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me,” is a good quote to live by when wondering if someone is really worth getting back with … for the fifth time.
Of course, there are instances where giving that special someone the last chance can prove that he or she could be the one. Evaluate all aspects of the relationship before jumping aboard or jumping ship. If you feel like whatever this person did was the straw that broke that camel’s back, call it quits. But don’t fret — there’s always a light at the end of the tunnel!
Have you ever been in a repeat relationship? Share your experience with fellow readers in a comment below!