How to Approach a “Friend With Benefits”

By: Samantha Eng, Copy Cutie 


Unlike a summer fling that spices up during the heat of the season, a friend with benefits is an all-weather relationship that can get you through a drought or the stormiest of seasons! 

A FWB (AKA friends with benefits) is a partnership based on a mutual understanding between two consenting people that their “relationship” is nothing more than casual sex in a commitment-free zone. There’s the disclaimer, folks. That being said, grab the bedposts and let’s knock some boots!

Set the Rules.

Above all else, a successful FWB starts with both parties knowing exactly what they’re signing up for. Once you’ve identified sexual sparks, strike a sit down before the straddle. Agree with the following up front: 

  1. No commitment
  2. No monogamy
  3. No emotions
  4. Yes, sex … and lots of it

Seems pretty simple enough, but the conversation is worth having.

Be Safe. 

Now that your contract is signed and dated, it’s time to consummate the agreement! But excuse us if we point our finger and shake our head to remind you (ever so politely) to be safe.

Rules 1, 2 and 4 clearly state to both parties that there might be more than 1+1 in the daily equation. Protect yourself with your favorite preventative!

Know Your Deal Breakers.

It didn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out the plot to Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake’s 2011 romantic comedy, Friends with Benefits. Unless you’re immune to catching the emotional fever, at some point there’s a good chance that one of you will develop feelings for the other. When you question breaking rules 1 through 4, you’re officially questioning your FWB status.

Other deal breakers could include, but are not limited to:

  1. A new girlfriend/boyfriend
  2. Relocation
  3. Disinterest

Should any of the above occur, make the cleanest break possible in understanding the terms of the agreement without damaging future FWBs.

Want to know how to make a smooth exit from an FWB? Let us know and maybe we’ll give you a tip or two on an exit plan!