Sometimes, Cheddar Isn’t Better: When Your Date Idea is Cheesy

By Jessica Hartman, Certified eFlirter

credit: Yellow.Cat (Flickr)Let’s face it — dating can be cheesy. But there’s the kind of cheesy that makes a gal’s heart go a-flutter, and then there's the type that’s over-the-top and screams, “I’m desperate for you to like me!” But oftentimes it’s complicated: sometimes the degree of cheesiness is affected by how long you’ve been dating someone. While some dates might be considered romantic at one point in the relationship, in another it can be too over-the-top … or even not over-the-top enough.

But how can you tell one from the other? We’ve given you three examples to help you navigate the complicatedly corny waters.

The Sitch: A horse-drawn carriage ride in a romantic setting (i.e. a park, the beach, etc.)
The Cheese-factor: This can be romantic on an anniversary or a special event, but it’s a big no-no on a first or second date. It’s over-the-top when it’s too soon, so save this gesture for when you really know each other.

The Sitch: A coffee date
The Cheese-factor: This is a great first-date, but beyond that it should only be saved for last-minute get-togethers or when you don’t have time for anything else. Meeting for coffee is particularly underwhelming when you’ve been seeing each other for a while already, which is why it can be cheesy. Once you meet up and decide you like the person, forgo extra caffeine and head out on the town!

The Sitch: Flowers
The Cheese-factor: Flowers are a great gesture to show someone you care about that you’re thinking of them. They can be great for a special event or just a random act of kindness. However, giving a lady you’re digging flowers before you’re “official” can be too much. Bringing flowers on a first date is also a big no-no, as you’ll set the date off on the wrong foot from the get-go.

Have other ideas about what could be perceived as romantic at one point in the relationship but totally cheesy in another? Let us know!