Pay the Babysitter: Why You Shouldn’t Bring Kids On a First Date

By Jessica Hartman, Certified eFlirter

credit: Alex E. Proimos (Flickr)We know that dating is hard enough. But throw in the fact that you’re a single parent and finding a significant other can make the situation even more daunting. Your kids are an important part of your life, and it’s important to be open and up-front with anyone you’re seeing about them. However, introducing them slowly is key — which means the first date is not the place for a physical introduction to your little ones.

It can be tempting to plan a play date if you’re both single parents, but using your kids as a buffer is never a good idea. You should get to know each other fully first. After all, you want to make sure that you’re in something substantial — and it’s good if you both hope to stay together for a long time to come. Otherwise, making an intro between your date and your children might be for nothing!  

Once both of you are fully sure of your relationship, plan a fun activity, like a picnic in the park or a trip to a local fair, to bring the kids to so they’ll feel comfortable when spending time with someone new in your lives. For more suggestions for meeting the kids, read on.

Remember Emily Maynard from this season’s Bachelorette? She only introduced her daughter, Ricki, to winner Jef when she was totally sure he was the guy for her. It’s the perfect example of showing how important it is to think of how your kids will feel about the situation — after all, they’ll have to deal with the new person in your life, too. Having them meet multiple people will be confusing, and may even cause them to have trust issues with the people you're seeing … or you. This is a delicate subject for everyone involved. But if it’s handled correctly, having kids be a part of a budding partnership can also add so much to your relationship.

How have you introduced your kids to someone you’re seeing? Share your tips with fellow readers below!