When Dating Online, Confidence is Key

By Jessica Hartman, Certified eFlirter

credit: mac.rjIt’s been said once, it’s been said a million times: It doesn’t matter what you look like — it’s how you carry yourself. It’s about confidence.

As clichéd as it sounds, it’s true! Oftentimes, people (including myself) often say things like, “I’ll focus on dating as soon as I’ve lost more weight.” But that’s definitely not the attitude to have. Recently, I’ve stopped caring so much about my physical appearance and looking “perfect” and put myself out there like the confident woman I know I am. And something just clicked — I’ve been getting more dates than ever! Seriously, even a guy at a car dealership tried to pick me up. It really should go without saying, but the second you carry yourself in a positive way, people will pick up on your energy and vibe — both in person and online.  

Here are the three reasons why your attitude can make or break your dating life (these go for men, too):

1. If you’re uncomfortable, you’ll make your date uncomfortable.  No one wants to be around someone who’s constantly fidgeting or acting self-conscious. Dates can be tense enough as it is; if your date constantly has to reassure you to you look great/smell great/are a great person in general, you’re doomed from the start. 

2. "You’ll get the love you give."  It's one of my favorite sayings because it's true! That being said, if you project confidence and positivity, you’ll get it back. There’s nothing sexier than someone with a great — and genuine — smile on his or her face.

3. Your positive attitude will make your date rise to the occasion.  What’s the worst that could happen — the two of you don’t click? At least you met someone new and have another story to tell. Stop taking dating so seriously! If you go in aiming to just have a good time and a fun conversation, chances are, you will.

Self-love is a never-ending process, but it really does affect your dating life. The moment you start becoming OK with you body, everyone else will be OK with it, too. Now go out there and strut your stuff!

How do you stay confident when dating online? Share with fellow readers below!