Sealing the Deal, Part 1: Mindset and Preparation

By Kevin Murray, Suave Scribe

credit: kyz (flickr)Whether it’s a one-night stand or someone that finally gave in after date #3, first-time sexual encounters are momentous occasions. If done right, sex is one of the most enjoyable experiences you can have! Not to mention, there’s a tremendous amount of excitement in exploring a new partner’s body. The biggest question you both want answered is: “Will your physical attraction and strong chemistry translate in the bedroom?” Before you can answer that question, we need to look at how you actually get to the point of sealing the deal.

Sealing the deal is purely a result of high levels of chemistry and physical attraction. Eventually the desire to kiss is overridden by the urge to rip each other’s clothes off. Getting to this point isn’t as complicated as people often make it. It all comes down to mindset and prep work.

As a man, you need to assume you’re going to be the one to make the first move towards sex — not being afraid to take charge is a must! You also have to go into every date or conversation with a woman you’re romantically interested in with the mentality that you’ll eventually sleep with her. Egotistical? Maybe. Listen, there’s no announced sexual schedule. It’s not as if you can circle a date on a calendar and say to yourself, “This is the night I’m definitely going to get laid.” Assuming you’ll have sex just means you’re ready for when it happens. Preparation is the steps you take that enable a smooth-as-can-be transition to a sexual encounter. Here’s a list you can follow so that you’re always ready:

Know your location and its backup plan.  If you’re going to have sexual relations, where’s it gonna be? Think ten steps ahead so that when you get to step nine, you know where your “foot” is going to land when you reach the top.

Mr. Clean.  The last thing you want is for a woman to turn you down because she’s grossed out by your car or bedroom. Before you go out on a date, clean up! (Especially your bathroom.) If these things are dirty, it may make her think other things about you are not-so-kempt.

Knight Rider.  Your car obviously isn’t the ideal situation for sex. However, when things get hot and steamy, this might become your impromptu location. Keep a blanket in the trunk, along with spare napkins, gum and condoms in the glove compartment. If you need any of these things, they’re instantly at your disposal.

Grooming.  So your car and bedroom are clean, but how about you? It’s in your best interest to be clean-cut and well-groomed the majority of the time — especially when you’re going on a date.  It’s also a good idea to get your manscape game on. You don’t have to go all-out metrosexual, but you do wanna be so fresh and so clean, clean when you do the deed.

Game shape. Sex is a workout. Two pumps and done isn’t going to satisfy the ladies and make them yearning for more. You don’t have to be in incredible shape, but it’s not exactly  attractive when you have to stop in the middle to catch your breath. Exercising gives you a mental and physical confidence that you can’t help exuding. Your confident swagger in the bedroom will certainly turn her on.

Stay tuned for part 2. Now that you’re prepared, we’ll look at how to actually seal the deal.