3 Ways to Tell Someone’s Not Into You

By Paola Hernandez, Copy Cutie

credit: greggoconnell (flickr)The best case scenario when going on a date with someone is that they’re up front and tell you that they won’t see you again. Some people might give you hints that they want the date over and done with. Unfortunately, everyone isn’t as honest as we’d like, and sometimes you need to figure it out on your own. Luckily, body language cues signal whether someone genuinely likes you.

No Smizing Allowed.  “Smizing” is when you’re smiling with your eyes and that speaks way louder than the traditional grin – the impact is way more intense. A person’s eyes have been compared to the gateway to his/her inner being. The two of you could be having a conversation and if there’s no sparkle in their eyes, there’s no interest. It’s a lot easier for someone to fake a smile with their lips than with their eyes.

Bueller, Bueller, Bueller.  You’re sharing a funny anecdote and when you finish, there’s no response. They’ll pretend to be listening to whatever you’re saying by nodding and agreeing with anything you say. If you suspect that they’re starting to tune out, do a little switch on them! Whether it’s something you saw on the news that morning or a crazy experience you had as a teenager, ask them their opinion. This will put them on the spot and make them at least be nice and give you their full attention. It might seem mean at first, but you’ll definitely chuckle when you think about it at the end of the night.

See But Don’t Touch.  At the end of the night, you give your date a hug after deciding to part ways. The hug feels somewhat forced and a little uncomfortable. When a person had a really good time and wants to see you again, the hug should feel mutual and genuine. If they don’t reach back for your hug, just wish them a good night and go on your way. Lingering and going for a handshake will just make matters more awkward and painful for you. If they weren’t interested, it’s their loss!

The art of figuring out if your date is interested in you can be tricky, but the knowledge is rewarding. Every person has a different technique for showing you they’re not interested, so put these in your mental bank for the future. The more you know, the better equipped you’ll be discovering the one person that is definitely interested in you.

Know a sign that someone gives if they’re not interested? Share in a comment below.